How long does it take?
It depends on what brings you in and what you want to work on. Some patterns have been there for years, so meaningful change usually takes time. We'll start by meeting weekly and check in along the way about what's changing, what's still feeling stuck, and whether therapy continues to be helpful.
There's no predetermined number of sessions or commitment you're signing up for.
How the work is done
I primarily use Internal Family Systems (IFS), an approach that helps us understand the different parts of ourselves and why we respond the way we do.
The part that gets angry. The part that shuts down. The part that avoids conflict or tries to keep everyone happy. The part that keeps pushing even when you're exhausted. These patterns don't come out of nowhere. They often developed for a reason, even when they're creating problems now.
Rather than judging those parts or simply trying to get rid of them, we'll work to understand what's underneath them. As you begin to understand yourself differently, you can respond with more choice instead of automatically falling into the same patterns.
For clients who want to incorporate their Christian faith into therapy, faith can also be a meaningful part of our work together.
Practical shape
50 minutes, online, by secure video. Weekly is common at the start, then every other week once there is some traction. Weekday daytime and evening times exist because most of the men I see cannot disappear at 2pm on a Tuesday.
